My growth makes way for others to grow 


My personal growth not only affects me, but many others. If I can commit to keep growing, it makes way for others to keep growing. The same goes for you! 

I’m so grateful that I have had people who were willing to do what it takes in their lives so I can be where I am today. 

I was chatting to my beautiful Mummy just the other night and she shared a few things that really made me grateful for her journey of growth. 

After my parents divorce, my Mum sought some Christian counselling that profoundly influenced her life and brought so much healing into her heart.  She grew so much in her relationship with God. She chose forgiveness, she chose growth. 

In the July of 2001, just a few months before my almost fatal accident, my Mum watched a documentary that helped prepare her to trust God in a new way. 

After watching the documentary ‘Rachel’s Tears’ my Mum said that she was really prompted to trust God in both life and in death. 

That thought has so much depth to it. Little did my Mum know that within just a few short months she would be praying prayers that God would miraculously heal me and chose to trust God that He knew best. Death was suddenly a reality for me, her youngest child at just 16. 

Thanks for choosing to grow Mum. Thanks for choosing to trust God with my life. 

In life and death we can trust Him. 

Let’s make a choice to grow so others can grow too. 

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L.O.V.E  

  

 Love is a powerful force.  Love is more than a feeling, it’s something we communicate. 

Recently, we asked our son Israel what love is. He replied, “you love someone”.  We then asked him, “what do you do if you love someone?” He replied, “cuddle them”. 

My almost 4 year old summed it up well: Love is meant to be actioned. 

There can be a disconnect between our choice to love and feeling of love for someone and our communication of love.

Mis-communicated love brings distance to the Mother-daughter relationship, it makes colleagues debate instead of  collaborate and spouses argue instead of serving each other.  

We can work on communicating love more effectively. 

I thought it would be fun to base a few simple keys for effective communication of love, on the acronym L.O.V.E. 

Like each other. Develop a genuine friendship. Being nice, considerate, caring and genuine helps to build a great friendship. Be interested in the other person. 

Over-communicate. It’s always better to over-communicate than to under-communicate. Over communicating is not the same as over-sharing.  We shouldn’t share all our intimate details with everyone.  Over-communication is more about clarity. 

Validate the other person’s point of view.   Great ideas often come from collaboration not condemnation. Everyone is better off when they are given encouragement. 

Effort is required. Loving people takes effort, it takes thought and intentionality.

Love with no strings attached. 

The Bible says that we should love others just like Jesus loves us and that the way we love each other will prove to the world that we are Christians. 

Being a Christian is simply accepting the awesome and amazing unconditional love of Jesus.  Secure in His love, we can then love others extravagantly and unconditionally. 

We don’t always get it right, but our love can make a difference!  Love is meant to be actioned. 

Spread the L.O.V.E

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I can see so far!

  
I never want to be a road block to someone else’s success in life.  I want to champion people. 

I love seeing potential in people and love the opportunity to play a part in unlocking the dream in their hearts.  This is God’s desire for us too. 

Jeremiah 29:11 

“For I know the plans I have for you”  says the Lord.  “They are plans for good and not disaster, to give you a future and a hope.”

The fact is I only see such potential in people because God first saw potential in me.   

God sees our potential, because He created us purposefully, beautifully and wonderfully.  

 We were driving in the car this morning as Israel announced to me, “Mum, I know everything.”  To which I replied, “Wow, you are awesome!”  He promptly smiled. As he looked out the window he said, “do you know how far I can see?” I was thinking  to myself ‘not very far because you are small and are only sitting on a little booster seat in a car and the stretch of road is slightly up hill and there is about a  100m max’. But he went on to say, “I can see so far!”

What a kid!  I must have done something right in his almost 4 years of life. He knows everything and he can see so far! 

Do you have a limited view from where you are – or can you see the big future you have? 

There can be so many obstacles to us seeing what God sees for us. I think the biggest obstacle is often ourselves. 

So let’s decide to get out of our own way and choose to see what God sees for us!

I want to stay committed to growing so others can grow, committed to learning so others can learn and committed to following Jesus authentically so others can follow him too. 

I can see so far, can you? 

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Folded Underwear

  
Growing up, my older brother was my partner in crime, we were less than 2 years a part in age and we were little rat bags and always had so much fun together. 
Then I became like a nagging wife to him…sorry bro!  As teenagers, he would annoy me so much by dumping his stuff all over the house and I would pick it all up and put it in his room and he would say to me, “You don’t clean up, you just dump stuff in my room.”  

He moved out of home at 19 and moved to Newcastle. I was so shocked when I went to visit him to see how clean his room was. He even folded his underwear neatly in his drawers! 

Wow. I was impressed!  

Forgiveness is to the heart, what folded undies are to a draw. 

It’s not about appearances, what is the true conditon of our heart? 

I once took a punishment for my brother because our Dad gave us an ultimatum and locked us both in the bathroom until one of us confessed to the ‘crime’. 

Pete wouldn’t even admit to me that it was him. I told him to just tell me the truth and I would still be willing to take the punishment. He still wouldn’t confess to me, but I took the punishment anyway.  

This experience, my small amount grace towards my brother is not even a glimpse of the grace Jesus has shown us. 

Romans 6:23

For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life through Christ Jesus our Lord.

Forgiveness is a free gift. 

If we can accept forgiveness, we can also pass it on. It’s the gift that keeps on giving.  

What’s the state of your draws?  

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Cause of Death: Humility 

  

  
When I first took Ben to visit my Grandparent’s farm, no mobile reception was a welcomed break.  As much as we love the city life and even love to holiday in cities – there is something special about the country life. 

It’s so nice to share the rich memories of a place with the person you love.  I pointed out the accident site and the hill where the tractor got away from me every time we went. For me, no matter how many times I talk about it, I am always so grateful. 

I still remember the sounds, I still remember the feeling as the water-filled back wheel of the tractor smashed my rib cage to pieces, punctured my lungs and lacerated my liver. 

On that fateful day, not only a known black spot for mobile reception; but even the neighbour’s two-way radio was broken. On that day however, given the emergency – the neighbour decided to try and use the two-way radio anyway and it worked!  He was able to successfully contact the ambulance who attended to me in just 17 minutes. 

There were so many miracles that took place in order for me to be here today and not just alive, but living life to the full!  From the lady who felt like she needed to pray for ‘a girl who couldn’t breathe’ at 10am on the 24th of Septemeber 2001. From the many operations the Doctors carried out, with each one saying that I’d most likely die on the operating table, but I didn’t. To the miracle healing of my liver – without the need of further surgery and the consequent enablement of my return to gymnastics to once again represent Australia.

Just yesterday my brother sent through a photo to me and a few family members of an article he read in The Australian about a farm accident and the fact that it was a black spot for mobile reception and its role in the fatal accident.  Not getting the help I needed as fast as I did certainly would have been fatal for me also. My cause of death wasn’t a black spot, but it wasn’t a tractor either.  I hope one day that my cause of death is simply old age. I suppose it’s what everyone hopes for in the end. 

Our days are numbered here on earth. Thank God for Christmas’ virgin birth and Easter’s empty tomb. 

Jesus’ cause of death was humilty, He was humble enough to take our place so that if we simply choose to believe, we receive. 

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The Cup 

  
The Cup in the Garden of Gethsemane represented the choice Jesus had to choose the cross. 

Matthew 26:38-39

Then He said to them, “My soul is deeply grieved, to the point of death; remain here and keep watch with Me.”   And He went a little beyond them, and fell on His face and prayed, saying, “My Father, if it is possible, let this cup pass from Me; yet not as I will, but as You will.” 

His soul was in anguish but He chose the cross. He chose us. 

He died. Dead. Gone. Buried. 

The Easter story doesn’t end at Good Friday. He could have just been the sacrifice for us; but He didn’t stop there.  The most powerful part of the story is resurrection Sunday. He rose again! 

Luke 22:20

After supper he took another cup of wine and said, “This cup is the new covenant between God and his people–an agreement confirmed with my blood, which is poured out as a sacrifice for you. 

The cup became representative of a new covenant, relationship made possible between us and God because of the price Jesus paid on the cross. 

Wrong choices once separated us – but one right choice, Jesus, brings us back into connection with God. 

Jesus defeated the power of death.  He broke the chains of Hell. Eternal life in heaven became our choice. 

Our cup is Jesus. Our choice is Him. 

His cup was heavy so ours could be light. His cup was anguish so ours could be contentment. His cup was Hell so ours could be Heaven. His cup was torture so ours could be freedom. His cup was death so ours could be salvation. 

In the midst of the Easter celebration, pick up a cup and remember the choice Jesus made for us. 

His cup was hard so ours could be easy. 

 

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Unconditional Acceptance, Perfect Love 

  
I remember the first time I modified my behaviour – negatively, to get the attention of my friend’s Dad who came to visit our class in year 2.  I just spoke a different way to how I would normally, but straight away I felt silly for trying to get his attention by not being myself. 

We carry hurt and dysfunction from such an early age. We compromise on who we are to meet expectations of others, to get attention and to get the acceptance we long for.  

Unconditional acceptance 

I knew the unconditional acceptance of my Father God as that little 7 year old. I knew straight away that I didn’t need the attention from my friend’s Dad; that I didn’t have to be something I wasn’t. 

Navigating life from a place of unconditional acceptance, complete assurance that you’re loved and accepted for who you are; gives a sense of security like no other.  

His acceptance is unconditional and his love so real you can feel it tangibly.

Perfect Love 

My husband is the best person I know. He is the most incredible, genuine person and he loves me so much. As great as he is and as great as his love for me is, it’s not enough to complete me.  I wasn’t looking for Ben’s love to complete me, because I already felt complete when I met him. Ben’s love was an awesome bonus in my life. 

The perfect love of God is what completes me and makes me whole enough to accept Ben’s love and to love him back with all I am.  

We often push love away when it hurts too much, when it takes vulnerability to go deeper into a relationship. When someone gets close enough to see the damage, to see our imperfections.

We can do the same with God’s love, push Him away or or maybe even try to earn it in some way. It’s unconditional. I think it takes a lifetime to let that truly sink in. 

We don’t have to hide who we are when we know we’re loved by God and we’re committed to the journey of discovering the life He has for us. We are aware we’re not perfect and that it’s ok.  By living His way, we stop the cycle of hurt and brokenness and start to live in the freedom He designed for us to live in. 

God is so gracious in his love towards us that He only ever gives us little bits of our brokenness to deal with at a time. Just our damaged bits that seek to create more damage if left to their own devises. 

My 2 year old daughter is just coming into the ultimate toddler stage of “mine”.  Fair enough, she just had her birthday and a lot of her new toys are hers (she still has to share them).  She even refers to Ben as “My Daddy” and although quite cute – reality is that Ben is the Father of three and she has to share him too! 

We humans are complex aren’t we? 

We are used to things being complex, because of our own complexities, but God’s love isn’t complex. It is so extravagant and so outrageous and yet so simple. No strings attached. 

It’s pretty hard to describe it, perfect love.  My Grandpa always said that describing God is like describing the taste of passionfruit. You just have to try it.

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