I took a moment to dance in the kitchen with my littlest baby, just a few little twirls as I savoured the moment of her tiny frame held in my arms. It reminded me of the times we spent in my Grandma’s kitchen growing up, helping out with the washing up and she would take a moment to dance with us and sing a song with the line, ‘ dancing in the kitchen with my Grandma’.
Audrey was just over four weeks old when she began to smile. It is normal for babies to start smiling between 5-6 weeks, like Israel and Sophie did. I was thrilled to get those early smiles, but I honestly thought to myself, “how has Audrey started smiling sooner than my others, when it’s feels like I have given her less face-to-face interaction?”
It’s quite an act to juggle giving your attention to three kids; I have been trying to take small moments with each one of them by reading to them, saying ‘I love you’ and enjoying the moment I have alone with them.
I read a quote recently by Robert Brault that I was encouraged by: A parent’s love is whole no matter how many times divided.
I certainly like the sentiment of that quote and I love my kids equally; but this quote gives the sense that a parent’s love is enough, that it’s whole – that it is perfect. Only the love of God is whole, his love is enough and perfect. The love of a parent is so strong, the bond so beautiful and we need it; but there is nothing we need more than the love of God. We were designed, purpose-built for relationships – especially one with God.
Even though a parent’s love has huge impact on a child’s self-esteem and is so vital; I believe the perfect love of our Father God – who created us, is what ultimately gives us confidence in who we are. When my parents were divorced when I was 10 years old – it was a life-changing moment when I realised my Dad would never live with us again. It was not an easy time and yet, my world was not shattered because I knew Jesus personally. I knew he loved me, I knew he was always with me and his love was something that was constant and complete. His love brought healing, it brought wholeness to a heart that was bleeding and hurting.
His love gives us security and freedom to be ourselves, knowing we are accepted and loved unconditionally. Despite what many religions try to tell us about getting to god through our good deeds; the one true God does not love us because of what we do, but for who we are.
If God’s love for us was based on what we do, it wouldn’t be perfect – it would be circumstantial, it would be conditional. God’s love for us is unconditional. I think we can get a little familiar with that term and forget that it means no strings attached, no conditions…his perfect love made possible for us at all times.