What is it about girls and their group bathroom trips?
While it is often seen as unnecessary for girls to go to the bathroom together; I want to validate the fact that great conversations can be had in front of the sink and mirror of the female bathroom.
I have been both a Youth Pastor and a High School Teacher and I have had many moments where girl’s group bathroom trips have annoyed me to no end; when they served for attention seeking purposes and gossip gatherings. However, it doesn’t always have to be negative.
This morning I was at the gym and I had just had a shower and washed my hair and so I was blowdrying it in front of the mirror and I had 3 great conversations with:
- The Mum of the Gym
- The Piano Player
- The Soccer Player
The ‘Mum of the Gym’ I have known for a while, she is sweet, she is genuine and she gives great advice. She’s a friend to everyone and she’s not afraid to work outside of the ‘Women’s Only’ area. Our conversation was short and sweet and she basically just told me how great she thinks I am.
The ‘Piano Player’ has lost 20kg since baby number two. She would love to pursue music therapy. She had a bit of a weird understanding about finding herself, but basically is a lot happier since she has lost weight and eats well and I was able to really encourage her.
The ‘Soccer player’ Mum, firstly found my shampoo and conditioner that I left in the shower (I still like to blame baby brain for these types of occurrences). She then needed to use the hair dryer after me and we chatted about makeup and her 17 year old daughter. She encouraged me in my pursuit of ‘looking after myself’ instead of just being a busy young Mum and allowing it all to get on top of me.
Three great women, three great conversations.
Women in our society are valued, we are well educated and we have so many great opportunities. Here I am, 15 weeks after giving birth to Audrey – feeling like my fitness levels are increasing, feeling good. In complete contrast, tonight I read an article by Angela Saurine in The Daily Telegraph. It was a very informative and emotive article about Ethiopian women who have had so much trauma from giving birth that they have major ongoing issues that need medical attention and often multiple surgeries. They become outcasts in their villages due to their leaking issues and stench. Many of these women are married at the age of 12 to older men and are divorced when such issues arise. Not only are these women isolated, neglected; but often the trauma of the birth involved the huge emotional weight of still birth also.
After reading this article, I was feeling very overwhelmed, so I turned to my Bible and read Proverbs 31:8-10
Speak out on behalf of the voiceless, and for the rights of all who are vulnerable. Speak out in order to judge with righteousness and to defend the needy and the poor.
I want to do a lot more than write one blog about this, but I have to start somewhere. Let’s speak out on behalf of the voiceless. Let our words and actions build other people up and not tare them down. God’s heart is for the rights of the vulnerable, to help the needy and the poor. We can all make a difference wherever we are, in small ways through great conversations, by valuing others and we can become involved in something bigger than our sphere of influence. We don’t have to be onlookers, or stop at feeling moved by something. We can be moved to action. We can live lives that count for something!
Whilst our society battles for equality in political correct ways that often only provide bandaid solutions; let’s be the ones who make a real difference. The name of Jesus is offensive to many and I don’t use it to offend. To me, the name of Jesus is hope, it’s life, healing, forgiveness, freedom, abundance, victory, purpose, eternity and salvation. I want conversations to ultimately lead to him. Lead to people discovering their purpose, their healing, their freedom in the name of Jesus.
So why do girls go in groups? To change the world.